Because evidently there’s not already enough pressure to fit in and conform to what everyone else is doing, someone’s carried out research on the ‘ideal’ number of sexual partners our other halves would like us to have.
According to the research, which was orchestrated by Nottingham, Bristol and Swansea universities and published in the Journal of Sex Research, the single people surveyed indicated they were looking for a partner who was sexually experienced – but not too much.
Because the ideal number of notches on your bedpost is three. This, however, varied when it came to a prospective long-term relationship; with most people saying they’d like their new partner only to have slept with two people before.
The findings also indicated that women are less attracted to men who have slept with more than 6 people before themselves, while men are evidently more lenient, with 11 being the average cut-off point.
The reason being is fairly obvious – people are fearful that the higher the number of historical sexual partners a person has had, the more likely they feel they are to be cheated on.
“A prospective mate with an overly extensive sexual history is statistically a poor bet as a faithful, committed long-term mate,” the study researchers said.
“Contrary to the idea that male promiscuity is tolerated but female promiscuity is not, both sexes expressed equal reluctance to get involved with someone with an overly extensive sexual history,” psychologist Dr Steve Stewart-Williams commented.
But while this is all very interesting, we can’t help but think studies like this force people to scrutinise themselves, worrying if their ‘magic number’ is significantly higher or lower than the apparent average.
Sex is something that’s personal to each individual; surely the number of people you’ve been with in the past shouldn’t be relevant to the success of future relationships? It is just a number, after all.
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